It is that time of year, the week between Christmas and New Year that people start promising themselves they will be better in 2018 – as if they were terribly behaved in 2017. Suddenly every one is making their list of
New Year’s resolutions
I will go to the gym, I will eat healthy, I will save money, I will stop eating chocolate, etc, etc, the list goes on.
But in classic New Year style by February they will be out the window and you’ll be on the same track as you were in February of 2017, and 16, and probably 15 – let’s be honest.
So why don’t resolutions work and why do we always use the new year as a time to make profound – and unrealistic – changes in our life….why do we have to make 12 months to decide that we really want to be better?
Honestly, I can’t tell you why, I could probably sit and do the research and dive into a deep hole of psychology and analysis of human behaviour but as I write this it is 6:30am on the 27th of December and I have things to do today…
What I can tell you though is why the resolutions don’t stick.
Because they are not goals. There is no clear intention. They are vague, overarching ideas of what you want to change in your life but you haven’t actually defined when you want to achieve it by, how you will and what you really want the outcome to be, You haven’t actually set yourself a goal.
Early in December i went to a vision board workshop held by A Journey to Wellness and I learnt a great deal about setting goals and creating the life that I want for myself in the year to come. I have had my vision board for almost a month and i look at it every day and I already feel clearer in my own mind about exactly what I want in the months ahead.
For me it is not about starting in 2018, that is just kind of the way it has worked out, but it is about finally putting into place some actual goals, so what are they?
- To get back to a UK size 14 (in general, I know it will never be a 14 across the board with the way different stores size their clothes) by the end of the year.
- To be in a job I enjoy with a liveable salary by the end of January.
- To start our vlog and have the first video live by the end of January.
- To finish my nutrition course by the end of January
- To create my own nutrition programme for people with auto-immune conditions by the end of March.
As you can see my goals, bar one ongoing one, are short term and manageable, I have given myself a tangible way of knowing when i have achieved them. Once I have met my realistic goals I can add more, i do not have to wait until January rolls around again, I can change, update and create new vision boards as the year goes on in order to keep my goals and my vision aligned.
If you want to learn about the power of vision boards and learn to create your own and set actual achievable goals then check out this page.